Episode 38: Fatherhood + Vulnerability

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EPISODE OVERVIEW

Derek Avery is the host of the Badass Vulnerability podcast where he challenges societal expectations and questions what it means to be authentically open and aware. He describes himself as a curious, fidgety, silly-hearted husband and father who has been inadvertently following his heart for years. From retail banking to energy efficiency work, from volunteer youth worker to worship music band leader, from personal development to spiritual formation, he has been on a journey of understanding about how he wants to be in this world, and has found that the key may be starting with vulnerability and self acceptance.

In this episode, Derek examines how he navigates family dynamics amidst chronic pain, the power of resilience and endurance, and how he finds ways to still be of service to others. He redefines what an “ideal dad” looks like as he shares the impactful role his wife and children have played in his journey, and how their support has spurred him to grow and evolve.

“I don't just want to serve someone. I want to serve everybody in some way.” — Derek Avery

Highlights

Derek shares his distinctive take on fatherhood, as well as the downfalls of burnout, and reminds us that there’s integrity in owning your screw-ups. His own vulnerability during our conversation is extraordinary as he encourages others to discover ways they can be heroic, even when they don’t feel like superheroes.

Some of my favorite moments include:

The draining effects of chronic pain

How we can minimize what’s happening to our bodies

Impression management

Allowing family to validate your pain

Showing up, even when it’s painful

Staying positive when you can’t show up physically

Discovering an outlet for frustrations

New growth in the aftermath of challenges

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