Episode 48: Releasing Perfectionism with Lily Sloane

EPISODE OVERVIEW

For this episode of Not What I Ordered, I’m joined by my amazing music editor and close friend, Lily Sloane. Lily is a therapist, composer, audio producer, and host of a weekly advice show with a deep passion for making the world a better place through self-healing. Learning to live with and accept her health challenges through therapy has helped her find comfort in the unknown, which she then channels into her own practice. By tearing down the notion of “perfect health”, Lily is able to help her clients -- and herself -- open the door to gratitude.

Lily shows true vulnerability as she opens up about the shame and dogma attached to chronic illness, as well as how she learned to live with her illness without needing to know what it is. She also shares how therapy has taught her to accept where she is on her health journey instead of where she’d like to be -- or where anyone else expects her to be!

By transforming her perspective, Lily was able to change her inner narrative, shed her need to fix everything, and learn to sit with her discomfort. Her story is a much-needed reminder that it’s okay to not have all the answers. Throughout her journey, she has learned that in order to make a change in the world around us, we must first make a change within ourselves. My open-heart discussion with Lily is full of powerful insights on making more space for acceptance and how embracing the unknown can lead to a more empowered life. I hope you enjoy our talk as much as I did!

“I'm working hard in a different way that feels more realistic. It feels like it's grounded in something real, which is that I actually don't have a ton of control over my body.”
— LILY SLOANE

Highlights

I’m so excited to finally have Lily on the show as she dives into the lessons she’s learned throughout her health journey. Full of laughter, tears, and a healthy dose of self-awareness, Lily truly showed up as her authentic self for this episode. I am inspired by her refusal to take her illness too seriously, and her perspective on the sacrifices we make to balance the competing needs inside of us is enlightening. Throughout our talk, Lily shines a light on letting go of control and why it’s so important to give yourself permission to feel. A few of my favorite moments with Lily include:

Embracing the unknown
The comfort and validation of saying “I don’t know”
Making space to feel anger and difficult emotions
Loosening the tight grip of perfection and need to control
The struggle of being told it’s “just stress”
The insights she’s gained through therapy
How self-improvement can be co-opted by your inner critic
How poor body image plays into her health journey

Allowing yourself to feel whatever is real for you
The power of movement

LINKS

LILY’S Websites + SOCIAL MEDIA

Lily Sloane Therapy: http://www.lilysloane.com/

Lily Makes Sound: http://www.lilymakessound.com/

Radical Advice: https://bff.fm/shows/radical-advice

Twitter: https://twitter.com/lilyrosesloane

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HOST

www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com
Lauren Selfridge, Licensed Marriage + Family Therapist

MUSIC EDITOR

www.lilymakessound.com
Lily Sloane, composer / audio producer / sound maker

transcript + SHOW NOTES WRITER

www.latashadoylewrites.com
Latasha Doyle, content + copy specialist

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